Uphill martyrdom

If it’s always always up hill - you’re in the suffer-for-good, martyr game.

You don’t trust success - people getting it, liking you, being in the same social-circle - so you create an uphill - everyone’s against you - mission statement.

Why?

To prove to anyone, everyone you know what you’re doing, what you believe, and that you’re trustworthy.

You’re like the 9 year-old kids who insists, over-and-over, 'I’m telling you the truth - honestly!' (The more they say it, the less likely it's true.)

How about a business creating their own desert of scarcity and trying to answer questions friends aren’t even asking?

You know the kind of person who is willing to read your 6-page ‘philosophy of you’ document?

Not your friends - just people who are reading it for what’s wrong with you - to pick fights, look for typos, or mock you. They're not your friends, and they don't care if you succeed.

You don’t need them (and there’s no way to prove with words - a lot of them - that you’re really awesome).

Awesome begins with trust, not doubt - and trust comes with showing, not telling. Or, as the old adage goes: If you're explaining, you're losing.

And there you go trying to convince a generic 'someone' about the you-ness of you with words about YOU.

It’s defensive and it builds a bad culture for those who are on your team.

And you can do better.